Jamie Lee is an executive coach for smart women who hate office politics. She helps them get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus.
"When I think about asking for raise, my anxiety spikes, because what if they say no? I'll feel like a total failure."
A BIPOC client said this to me the other day.
Read on for the three-step strategy I offered my client, so she can advocate for her career growth with more ease and confidence.
✨ Do this 1 minute exercise to dissolve 🫠 your anxiety
Ahead of a negotiation, board presentation, or a difficult conversation…
(Or to stop 🛑 rumination when things are slow)
There's at least 50+ things you can negotiate in your career beyond starting salary, spanning from equity compensation to getting paid out unused and accrued PTO.
To help you brainstorm and strategize for success, I've compiled a list with links to free articles and podcast episodes.
You, who's reading this, is so much more resilient and capable than anyone else's misconceived notions of you.
You want to be able to redirect your brain from a tailspin to coherent problem-solving-mode, so you can calmly respond and rise above the nonsense.
So try these three techniques on for size today.
My client Ann — a brilliant executive who works with a nearly all-male team of leaders — and I came up with this super fun and useful tool that you can try on for size.
It's called the Greta Gerwig Perspective.
Imagine stepping into every room where you're the only woman or woman of color among decision-makers, and worrying less about how you come across and what other people think...
But instead sitting tall, relaxed, feeling good knowing that you're well-prepared and polished -- because that's who you are...
Read more to find out how you, too, can get calm, grounded and confident really FAST.
Watch the replay of my open group call Leadership Lab for Women of the Global Majority.
But before I get into the details, let me take you on a quick journey into the subterranean world of NYC subway system…
It’s NOT your fault if the path to promotion feels murky or unfair…
because in reality, it is FAR from true meritocracy.
And here’s the thing to remember.
You’ve got a big brain, big heart and big intentions to be of service in the world.
You ENJOY being good at what you do. Mastery matters to you.
But as a woman in a male-dominated workplace…
When the opportunity to present your case to the promotion / hiring committee arrives, your heart starts beating fast…
Because, ever since you were a girl, you knew you wanted to be known for being excellent at what you do.
When you find yourself in the loop of overworking but hesitating to advocate for what you want in your career…
This doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate (we all become negotiators the moment we learn how to say "No" at the age of two)
Or that you don’t have the "right" personality to be an influential leader (being loud and extroverted is NOT a leadership requirement)…
It's not your fault that, as a woman or a minority or an immigrant, you internalized the narrative that unless you do things just "right," you'll be unliked, unwanted, unsafe.
If you're like me, this started from when you were a kid.
"Instead of thinking about networking as a way to get something out of someone, you can think about it as a way of being a PORTAL," a client told me this week.
I love that so much, I'm stealing it. 😉
My client routinely works with the C-suite. She works among executives and will become one herself.
But before coaching with me, whenever she had to interact with the CEO (which is on a fairly regular basis), she'd freeze up in high levels of anxiety 🥶 -- her mind spiraling, her jaw clenched, her palms cold and wet.
My coaching practice is inspired by this spicy ajumma — Korean word meaning "auntie," usually referring to a mother with strong elbows and IDGAF attitudes.
But let me share with you a cautionary tale about negotiating like an ajumma —
Read more for the full story.
In the latest episode of Negotiate Your Career Growth podcast, I sat down with Jordan Sale, founder of pay equity startup 81cents (now part of teamrora.com) to discuss the ins and outs of both salary and severance negotiations.
A client of mine, Mi-Yeon, recently got promoted to SVP of Sales. The first woman to hold the position at her company.
It wasn’t easy and it didn’t happen overnight.
Here are three key things we worked on in coaching to make her promotion a reality.
For my clients Ellie and Janae, the crucial piece to making their self-advocacy a success was first gaining agency over their emotions, so that they felt LESS anxiety and MORE confidence.
Read more to find out what they said to get the most out of their self-advocacy at work.
Dr. Linda Babcock of Harvard Kennedy School (along with other really smart PHDs) has published academic papers that prove women can close gender pay gaps when they use one or more of the following strategies.
Have you tried them?
When it came to engaging in informal coffee chats with the company COO, or when I sat down 1:1 with my direct supervisor or an industry mentor to talk about the career growth I wanted for myself...
I'd inexplicably find myself tongue-tied and unsure of myself, with a lump of anxiety pressing into my throat and stomach. Here’s what I learned since then.
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