Jamie Lee is an executive coach for smart women who hate office politics. She helps them get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus.
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Jill comes across as increasingly adversarial, demanding you deliver on promises she herself can't make. And Sam is reluctant to commit to the launch deadline, saying it would be better to delay rather than risk getting blamed for unforeseen errors.
Just when you most need your colleagues to come together, collaboration seems to be falling apart.
WHY is this happening?
Your honest no is a kind yes to you and it's in the best interest of everyone.
Even if the folks who ask for your time quibble at your no, you benefit them by NOT going against your integrity. By NOT doing things half-heartedly, while wishing you’d said no in the first place.
So I invite you to borrow, steal or adapt any of the following —
When you practice Intention Neutrality, you can interpret their intentions in the best way that helps you respond with calm confidence.
For my client who wants to grow her visibility at work, Intentional Neutrality led to her consciously choosing to interpret this person's request as, "They're trying to help me."
She's going from frozen and feeling like she's not doing a good enough job, to fluid and feeling calm, supported as she grows her visibility with stress-free, speedy updates.
In college, figuring out a career outside of school felt impossible.
Then in the "real world," feeling good enough at what I do felt impossible.
So did taking credit, feeling confident, comfortable in my own skin, or asking for a raise or promotion — all impossible.
For a while.
Then I did the impossible things.
